Do You Know Me?
The importance of getting to know someone
by Gordon Lamont (revised, originally published in 2010)
Suitable for Key Stage 2
To consider that we should value each other and recognize that outward success is not the same as inner well-being (SEAL theme: Good to Be Me).
Preparation and materials
You will need to prepare three large cards with the following written on them:
- the name of someone from reality TV or a current celebrity
- the name of someone whom the children may have heard about in school
- the words ‘This child’ and a downward-pointing arrow
Keep the cards hidden from view until the appropriate moment.
Explain the ‘Who am I?’ game. Three volunteers will come to the front and face the rest of the children. The leader will hold up the first card behind the first volunteer. The volunteer may then ask up to 20 questions to find out who (s)he is, but the questions can only have Yes or No answers. For example, the volunteer could ask questions like, ‘Am I female?’, ‘Am I alive?’, ‘Am I on television?’, ‘Have you heard about me at school?’ and ‘Do I play a sport?’
When the volunteer has guessed who (s)he is, the second card is held up for the second volunteer and so on.
Play the game. Be ready to support with questions: although this is a simple game, it can be quite taxing for some children to think of things to ask. You could also ask the rest of the children to suggest questions, if they can do so without giving the game away.
When you reach the third child, make a point of underlining how difficult it was for her/him to realize who (s)he was. Applaud the volunteers and ask them to sit down.
Explain that everyone now knows who the three people were, but do they really know them? How much do we really know about people? For example, everything we know about the celebrity is through what we call the mass media: newspapers, magazines, TV, radio and the Internet. We can’t really say that we know them because we’ve never met them. Neither have we met the second person. We’ve all met the third person (the child) but even (s)he didn’t know who (s)he was! People are much more complicated than 20 Yes/No questions can show.
Time for reflection
Ask the questions below, pausing to allow time for thought after each.
- Who do I know best?
- Who knows me best?
- Do my friends ever surprise me by being different from what I expect?
- How can I get to know people better?
We all have relationships with other people. Sometimes, we can take these for granted. Sometimes, we can forget to take the time to be grateful for those who love and care for us. Sometimes, we are quick to make assumptions about what a person will be like from the way they look or the clothes that they wear.
Let’s take the time to be grateful for those around us and always be willing to get to know other people before we make judgements.
‘God knows me’ (Come and Praise, 15)